Love, Sex and Dating Articles -> Just Get Over It - Part 2

Some people could stay home watching every single poignant drama there’s, sunken in regret and stuffing their faces with ice-cream. Apparently it can work wonders for them, because they can take out on it all that bottled up anger. There’s nothing like spending a night by getting it out of the system to help forgetting a great passion. 

Others however would rather get rat face. Out every night on the razzle to overcome their misery. It’s a double blade knife, as some would be capable of neglecting their feelings or someone by simply blanking it. Which one would be healthier in terms of peace of mind? It depends on the person. Yet again, there are no rules. The frame of mind towards other aspects in life, the knack for coping with demands, it’s what dictated the outcome.

Some would immediately switch into their doom and gloom mood and thrive on it. Then it’s absolutely nonsense. The fact that someone is not willing to be with you, does not mean that someone else wouldn’t. The string of opportunities that could lie ahead is not to be spoilt by one bad move only. Get off this kick because life goes on and people are up for grabs. New sensations, new affairs, maybe someone hotter, with a different build; anything could happen upon breaking up. There’s always something underlying in there. That’s why going with the flow, and getting the hang of it, still taking the biscuit. A love could be lost but there might be many others about to happen. Only time would tell.

Possibly the most useful hint of them all is to take your ex out of the pedestal in which he/she lies now. Most of what is taken for granted by people springs out from holding the other as worthwhile, flawless and gifted. Off course, no one wants to miss such a prince charming. Hence, the flaws of your ex could help and a lot towards a change in perceptions about him/her, if acknowledged. Loathing that person is not idyllic, but seeing this person through the prism of reality other than the passionate illusion would. Telling the bad from good out of character becomes quite hard when one is in love with this person. So, the ex regarded as human rather than goddess could help him/her to be forgotten more easily. Leaving someone behind might not be so easy but is not impossible either. Everybody had done it at least once in a lifetime. Working out how to rid this person of your mind and heart could make you grow wiser.  

People most likely would come out stronger upon falling apart provided they could stop and think it through again. Pushing it in the back of your mind may not be enough, because the issue would keep coming out every time you had a defeat.  

Regretting, keeping to yourself, partying till you drop, having a friend lent you an ear, all of which could offer insight for you to cope with the sorrow and come to terms with it by the mind and heart altogether. That what costs you dearly would not necessarily be forgotten but understood instead and there may no longer hurt those who go against it.  

By Anne Griza
Psychologist

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