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-> Virtual Sex: The Down Side
In my last article "Adult
Dating and Virtual Romance"
on the subject of virtual
sexuality, I brought across
seemingly positive features
of safer sex. Nevertheless,
when talking about sexual relations
of the virtual kind so trivial
nowadays, bear in mind that
cyber-sex likewise all
things in life, also has its
downside. Virtual Sex at
it best: sexually healthy;
Cyber-Sex at its worst:
emotionally conflicting and
sexually detrimental.
Let's shed light on certain
drawbacks of Cyber-Sex.
Recently, an e-mail of personal
accounts posed me to write this
article. In that, a woman says,
quoted, having met a man through
the internet through which they
communicate frequently for a
while. On which point they decided
it was time to have a date.
She took the trouble to set
up their date in a shopping
center as busily a public as
crowded with people; assumingly
ever a problem would creep up
from something so casual. As
it were, they chat along over
a cup of tea, he came off sympathetic
and all that, as handsome. Meanwhile,
they went for a stroll for window-shopping.
All of a sudden, he unnoticeably
draws a gun, threatening her
in case of overreaction so forcibly
take him to her car. As they
got there, another two thugs
approached her car -his accomplices.
The neat result, she got raped,
beaten up senseless, humiliated,
dumped in a landfill and yet
had her car robbed. Nobody could
care less to help as her that
ordeal took hours. She filled
a complaint at the police station,
underwent medical checks for
grievous bodily harm, but, unfortunately,
the so-called monsters, as she
called them, still on the loose.
All known until today is that
they make part of a rapist gangue
tapping on internet adult find
and chat rooms for wrongdoing.
In the internet, bogus profiles
are commonplace, so people take
advantage lurking behind fake
personas. All change, the ugly becomes beautiful, the old turns
new, men and women reassign
genders, a wolf in sheep disguise,
an the timid turns eloquent
to please his/hers own sexual
fantasies.
Therefore, in selling a false
image, whoever be on the other
end gets to share this sexual
fantasy as well. Actually,
both are living up their own
fantasies, by thriving on expectations.
Such seems one of the main
causes for deception as far
as virtual dating goes;
raising expectations on others
to match requirements of an
emulated character. Nonetheless,
it hardly ever happens in reality.
Arguably, frustration might
as well occur after dating,
once prone to all sorts of backlash
and emotional luggage typical
of any given relationship.
Anywhere and anytime, we're
bound to make acquaintances.
Whether sexually gratifying
or emotionally fulfilling, all
boils down to trial and error.
The same goes with Virtual
Sex.
Sexual relations whether
online or offline, gear up by
what we perceive or are willing
to see on each other, i.e.,
an individual gets involved
with someone based on self-
expectations.
We're drawn in sexuality by physical beauty as in moved
by the looks, intelligence,
sense of humor, common grounds
of interest, values, trust,
and bonds amongst others. Sex might complement a relation
or not, perhaps much like passion
and love
Whether a real life story or
not, the one outlined above,
can happen to anyone. As violence
runs rampant everywhere, on
a daily basis, likely to spur
even from virtual sources.
Regardless of the motto of
your relationship, always apply
common sense. Don't overlook
your life that is so precious
in detriment of someone else's
sexual kicks .
By Kelly Cristina Barbosa
Cherulli
Psychologist and Sexologist
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